"Effeminate" does not mean femme - I'm not a woman wannabe, I don't wear women's clothing and the mere mention of female genitalia makes me nauseous! I'm an old fashioned pansy - lispy, limp-wristed, swishy - I've been discriminated against by the Gay community far more than I ever was from the world at large. The Gay community has become more accepting and supportive of transgendered people (and that's just fabulous) but those of us who are, by nature, the Flaming Fag stereotype are still marginalized and even hated by those who have fought to be who they are. Trust me, if you think I like sounding like Truman Capote - if you think it's an affectation when I extend my pinkie eating a petit four - if you think I walk the way I do deliberately - think again.

I want to find other effeminate brothers to chat with and find support and if we get naked and skip and play Fairy Fay - well, so be it. As he said in La Cage Aux Folles "I bang my own drum - some think it's noise, I think it's pretty..."

Favorite Quotes: When the Doge did his duty and the Duke didn't, that's when the Duchess did the dirt to the Duke with the Doge. There they were in the dark - the Duke with his dagger, the Doge with his dart and the Duchess with her dirk. The Duchess dug to the Duke just when the Duke dove for the Doge; now the Duke ducked, the Doge dodged and the Duchess didn't. So the Duke got the Duchess, the Duchess got the Doge and the Doge got the Duke.